C
Chiron
You two should decide on who's going to be the geezer and who's going to
be the punk and get a room...
John, I don't mind when someone disagrees with me. If I knew so much,
I'd be teaching, not asking for help on a "basics" newsgroup. I know I
don't know everything. At times I wonder whether I know *anything*.
I have learned two of the most useful phrases in the English language.
One of them is, "I don't know." The other is, "I was wrong." Amazingly,
these two phrases can put a stop to all kinds of rancorous disputes.
I make a special effort to treat people respectfully, even if they
disagree with me, even if they are a bit snippy with me. In return, I
expect the same treatment.
I am a pretty simple guy. If someone starts to treat me with disrespect,
I take a moment to comment on it (as I am doing now). I ask - in a
respectful manner - that they be respectful. Often that's all it takes.
Lots of people will treat me with respect when they understand that I
intend to treat them the same way.
Unfortunately, there are a few who prefer to use abuse.
I don't know whether you are willing to treat me with respect, or whether
you will insist on being disrespectful. I can only ask that you be
respectful, and hope for the best. So please - treat me with the respect
that I give you. If you feel I have been disrespectful, then please call
me out on it. Maybe I phrased something sloppily so it sounded nasty;
maybe I really *was* being disrespectful. I'm human. I **** up
sometimes, despite my best efforts. But if I do, I will either explain
myself, or - if I see I *was* disrespectful - I will say yet another
useful English phrase. That one is, "I'm sorry."
I've had way more experience with flame wars than is healthy for a
person, far more than I ever should have. It did me not the least bit of
good, just wasted much of my precious time. It's not how I want to spend
my time any more. That's why I use the killfile. It keeps me from
wasting more time doing something that no one benefits from.
So I hope you'll choose to be respectful. But if not, then peace. I
wish you well, and good luck, and all that. No hard feelings either way.