Perhaps a photosensor/transistor could be used as the switch between night/day mode to reduce complexity and eliminate the need for a μcu. It would not be as sensitive of course. I would suggest placing/stiching the vibrating device high up in the bag and perhaps include some loose metallic items in a small pouch next to the device such that when it goes off you will get both an auditory/tactile alert. The reasoning behind this is that you may not feel the vibration by itself if your purse is set down or even on your shoulder for that matter as the strap would absorb some shock.
Thank you, that's very helpful