OK, here's my suggested circuit.
It's based around an LM393N dual comparator IC. This device contains two circuits that compare two voltages and produce an output signal according to which is greater. They are shown as triangles inside the IC outline.
With VR1 set to about 60 kΩ the series combination of VR1 and R1 is 240 kΩ. This resistance forms a voltage divider with the resistance you're measuring. When that resistance is also 240 kΩ the voltage at R2 will be half the supply voltage.
R2 feeds this voltage into one input of each comparator inside U1 (pins 3 and 6) and protects U1 from damage due to spikes, noise etc on the input.
R3, VR2 and R4 form a three-resistor voltage divider that generates two voltages that are proportional to the supply voltage. These two voltages are used as thresholds by the comparators in U1 - the high threshold voltage is on pin 5 and the low threshold voltage is on pin 2. The two threshold voltages are balanced around half the supply voltage (because R3 and R4 are the same value), and VR2 sets the difference between these two threshold voltages.
The first comparator in U1 (pins 1~3) detects when the sense resistance is lower than the low threshold. When the voltage on pin 3 is lower than pin 2, the comparator responds by driving pin 1 low. This pulls the base of Q1 down to about 0V and turns OFF Q1 and the relay, K1.
The second comparator in U1 (pins 5~7) detects when the sense resistance is higher than the high threshold. When the voltage on pin 6 is higher than pin 7, the comparator responds by driving pin 7 low. This pulls the base of Q1 down to about 0V and turns OFF Q1 and the relay.
Only if the voltage from the sense resistance is between the thresholds will both comparators allow their outputs to be pulled up to the positive supply rail by RP. This turns Q1 ON and energises the relay.
K1 is a reed relay with a coil voltage rating of 12V and a coil resistance of about 1 kΩ.
Normally a relay coil would need a diode connected across it to suppress the inductive kickback from the relay but in this circuit it is driven by an emitter follower (Q1) so no diode is needed.
CD is a 0.1 µF ceramic capacitor used to decouple the power supply for U1, and must be connected as directly as possible between pins 8 and 4 of U1, with its leads as short as possible, for reliable operation.
RS and DS protect the circuit against negative voltages and high-voltage surges and noise that are common in automotive power sources, and CS smooths the positive supply rail. RS must be a fusible resistor.
There is no filtering in the circuit to remove noise. The reed relay has a slight delay on energising and de-energising which may be enough to avoid problems. If the relay activates briefly when it shouldn't, you can add a 0.1 µF or 1 µF capacitor between Q1's base and the 0V rail.
The simplest construction option is stripboard. Connections (CN1~6) can be made with wires or dedicated plug/socket connectors.
The counter-clockwise and clockwise ends of the trimpots are indicated on the diagram.
To adjust the circuit, connect the desired resistance to CN1 and CN2 and adjust VR1 until the voltage at CN1 (measured relative to the circuit's 0V rail) is exactly half of the voltage on the positive supply rail (Q1 collector, etc). Then adjust VR2 for the desired window range.
You can replace VR2 with a fixed resistor of say 47 kΩ to get a window of about ±6%, or a resistor of 100 kΩ for a window of about ±12%.
Here's a list of Digi-Key catalogue numbers for the components:
CD 100 nF / 0.1 µF ceramic
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/C420C104K5R5TA7200/399-4491-1-ND/818348
CS 100 µF 25V electrolytic
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/UVR1E101MED/493-1061-ND/588802
DS 1N5929B 15V/3W zener
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/1N5929BRLG/1N5929BRLGOSCT-ND/917658
K1 relay - two options
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/9007-12-01/306-1280-ND/1914956
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/HE3621A1200/HE208-ND/133261
Q1 2N3904
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/2N3904BU/2N3904FS-ND/1413
R1~4 180 kΩ (x4)
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/RNMF14FTC180K/S180KCACT-ND/2617454
RP 10 kΩ
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/RNMF14FTC10K0/S10KCACT-ND/2617809
RS 33Ω fusible
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/ULW2-33RJA25/985-1001-1-ND/2401865
U1 LM393N
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/LM393N/LM393NFS-ND/458695
VR1,2 100 kΩ (x2)
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/CT6EP104/CT6EP104-ND/738305
Stripboard
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/8022/V2018-ND/565947
IC socket for U1
http://www.digikey.com/product-detail/en/AR-08-HZL-TT/AE10011-ND/821765
Suitable connectors
see
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