I am not sure but it looks like there might be 5 pins on the relay.
With a resistance meter find two pins with a resistance of say 100 ohms. That is the coil, connect these pins to 12V (9V may do) and listen for the click.
The other three pins are the contacts. Two pins will be connected together and may be marked NC (normally closed) and common.
When the relay is energised, there should be a connection between common and NO (normally open)